The fight of my life, just a metaphor, or is it a fight with which I will have to struggle for the rest of my life. I often think about this as I’m going through my ups and downs. Depression is something I do not want to worry about forever, but I know if I ever stop thinking about it, it could be the end. What if there was a cure? What if it was something you worked on every single day, hoping to improve a little bit, never wavering from your final destination? Does that help or hurt the situation? Or what if there is no cure, it’s just the last day of this eternal struggle. Death. How then is it possible to find the courage to fight every day, knowing you have to wake up and fight again tomorrow? That question burns inside me and has for some time now. I fear the days where I want to quit. For now, something inside me prevents me from choosing that day and just giving up. Is it because there are those days I feel like I’m going to get somewhere in this life? Maybe, but then I crash into the reality of the situation and ask, is there somewhere I need to be? I overvalue those things in my life that I assume others want me to have. Money and 401k are things for people who know they will live long lives. Never once have I thought I would make it to 40, yet here I am. I have no idea where I’m going, but I’m fighting every day for things others tell me I need. Exhaustion has set in I am struggling to continue without some direction. It’s like treading water without sight of the shore. How does one know what they want? How the hell do I find out the things in life that make life worth, when everything we strive for takes so long to get. I need a taste of several lives, just a bit here and there, then let me pick the one that works the best for me. How do you put your life on hold right in the middle to explore these other lives? Where would I start? The one thing I know is that I have to lose this extra weight. It will give me a lot more time to figure out where I’m going and will make it a lot easier on the way there. So that is where I start this next battle, the age-old war for myself and many others. Fight on to anyone reading this, fight on, and do not stop. We have one life on this earth, with an unknown amount of time to live it. Choose to make it everything you want it to be and accept nothing less.
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Someday Isle
Someday I will do great things, someday I will lose weight, and someday I will ask her out. Decisions like these, when I look back through my life, make me the person I am today. And there’s the rub, I hate the person I have become. I do not remember when or where I first read about this idea, but I do remember the way those words made me feel. To say I felt this in my bones would not be enough, my whole body resonated with this idea, and it made me sick. Deep inside of me lies a place I can’t control, it can tie me up in knots when I’m nervous, or debilitate me with fear when I least expect it. I’ve never put a name to this place or found a way to explain the feelings. Someday Isle is where I built my home. On this island, I have spent my entire life, living alone, afraid, never daring to dip my toes into the water that surrounds me. Someday Isle get off this Island, Someday Isle build a new home.
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Death?
Does looking at your upcoming death improve your life? This concept continues to reveal itself in recent books I have read. I tend to view things in a more logical manner, which makes this concept challenging for me to understand. The idea that facing your death can improve your life is not new. There are tales of people seeing life flash before their eyes and afterward have a new lease on life. I do not discredit this notion, nor though have I ever experienced it. I do, however, feel that looking at my death, studying it, facing it, not backing down, may allow me to worry less about my irrational fears. The future holds endless possibilities. Fear of not living up to any preconceived outcome has thus far done nothing to improve my life.
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What’s next?
Imagine what you want to accomplish in this life, a goal that seems far too distant to imagine, a goal you’re embarrassed to mention to your friends. That is where I want to begin. Start breaking this goal down, start thinking about what it would take to achieve. One of my favorite people (Tom Bilyeu) has a saying that I will use here. “No Bullshit, what would it take?” Think about this one for a long time. No Bullshit, what do I have to do to make this happen, what would it take? This is where I struggle, this is where it all falls apart. When I think about this part, when I think about what I have to give up to reach for my goals, I make excuses. Right now, imagine what you want, then look at what you’re doing. If you would happily trade what your day consists of right now, for what you want your life to be, make the change. This is going to mean giving up the little things in life that feel like freedom. Drinks with friends and going out to eat is where I plan to start. When all of my social interactions revolve around consuming calories I must make a change. These daily choices give the illusion of a happy life, however, they mainly hide my loneliness, unhappiness, and frustration. My goals are many, but all lead through a healthy body. This has become my main focus and will continue to be in the following year.
Giving up these small freedoms to which I cling will, I hope, become the change I so desperately need. The freedom to control my own life, to be the very best me I can be. I started writing this post months ago and now coming back to my saved draft I look at this post much differently. I know better now the direction I am heading. I want to live, to be happy with my life, for when I look back on this amazing journey I will say “I did that, and that was the best me I could be.” A healthy mind and body will be the foundation of the new life I am building. The process will be hard, and I can not wait to see what’s next.
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Rise and Rise again
Failure, my biggest fear, the one thing that ruled my life. I know I feared failure every day. Feared disappointing my family, feared to show weakness, just feared to be anything but normal. Normal was something that didn’t stand out, didn’t stick out, didn’t cause any waves. I could blend it, do things on my own terms, and hide from the world. I am writing this because I feel a lot of people feel this way. They feel like they don’t want to risk messing up for fear that someone will make fun of them, think less of them, think them stupid, hell just about any reason. I was that person, and I know many others are feeling the same way right now. We only get one chance at this life and knowing that why the hell should we not take every chance we get to make it great. Why not go for it every single day? I read a quote, and I never remember where I hear them or who said them, I just know they mean a lot to me at that point or I wouldn’t remember. The quote goes something like this, “If you want something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.” Now I use to be completely against quotes, but I also had a fixed mindset and thought I was super smart. I am quickly learning that anyone and everyone can teach you something if you’re willing to listen and learn from them. Now, this quote really hit home when I started thinking about the rut that my life had become. I say this past tense because I feel I’m doing better, but every day I have to remember to get outside of my comfort zone. I fail just about every day, hell lets just say every day. Something before that I promised myself I would never do I now realize I do every single day. That is a scary thing to think about if you think failure is final, but this is just not the case. I fail when I eat too much, I fail when I get upset with a rude person and let it bother me, I fail when I oversleep, I fail when I give up early on my last set at the gym, I fail when I forget to call my Mom, I fail when I forget someone’s birthday, I fail all the damn time. And guess what? It’s not a big deal. I eat too much, then I better have a damn good workout the next morning, I oversleep, well I better be productive and make sure to get to bed at a good time the next night, I forget a birthday, then a handwritten card and a phone call means way more than a text message anyway. The point is that failure is not the end, its just a step towards improvement. I recently read a couple of books that showed me this in a much better way than I could ever express here. This will continue to be a recurring theme for a while as reading (non-fiction) has truly changed my life. Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn, and The Obstacle Is the Way. I highly recommend reading these books and soon will put together a reading list of all the books that I’ve read and highly recommend, but for now, just know that if I talk about them they have had a meaningful impact in my life. These books did a great job in expressing to me the importance of not giving up, not thinking failure is final. When you can stop thinking that way, it really opens your eyes up to all the many great things you can do in your life. So this is me living what I’m saying, failing at a Blog until I get better at it. I hope for everyone’s sake that I do in fact get better at this, but for now just know that I’m going to continue to fail over and over while trying to help every single person I can.